LIKE MOTHER, LIKE DAUGHTER

I grew up in a traditional home where my father works and my mother stayed home to care for us: 6 children and all.

I remember at an early age of 10, told myself that I will never be like my mother; who never had a formal career but chose to have a small business just so she could stay home and be with us. I envied my classmates who tell that their moms work in a bank and other big companies. From then on I vowed not to follow my mom’s path.

In college, I was on my own, being a working student. After graduating with a degree in AB Psychology I worked as an HR Assistant in a Recruitment Company, a month before my regularization I resigned….I was not happy. Next job was in a Telecom company as an Administrative Asst., after almost 2 years I resigned….I was not happy. I’ve been in many different companies…still I was not happy. I married in 2000 and got pregnant in 2002. My sisters (who are stay-at-home moms) told me to resign as soon as they learned I was carrying twins. I did not because I never wanted to be like my mom. Two months after I gave birth I went back to work. But each day, I grew restless and eventually I was unhappy at work again. I finally resigned from work in 2003. Staying home everyday is what I dreaded since I was 10 yrs old. But slowly, I find myself becoming more relax, happy and contented as I see my twin kids growing up. Bathing them, feeding them and playing with them soothe my soul. It has been 5 years since my last job, I found out that following my mom’s path is not a bad idea after all. I now have 3 kids to take care of; the tasks are getting bigger but surely life at home is getting sweeter and happier. I am now into party hosting and coordination. I am also part time insurance agent. I get to enjoy work and my kids at the same time. My children are my priority, I do my part time jobs on a weekend.

In 1993 my mom passed away at an early age of 43 due to kidney failure. I learned many things from my mother like the art of forgiveness and the art of asking for forgiveness She was a very compassionate woman, generous and humble. She once said to me that life too short not to enjoy life. She taught me to live life fully, to love more, to give more. But most of all I learned to spend quality time to my children. My mom died early but I truly believe she lived her life fully.

I salute all the mothers who stick to their jobs and have flourishing careers but I don’t envy them anymore. I have found the career I was looking for: A full time mother, a wife, a party host, a friend, a daughter, a sister…and all.

MY LIFE MOVIE, 1993

This film is one which really makes us sit back and evaluate our lives and our relationships with those we love. This was shown in 1993, the same year that my mother died. This is still a superb piece of movie making with winning performances from all the cast and a wonderful script, and should be watched every now and again to remind us that life is too short for hatred. This is one of those movies that comes along and knocks you to the floor by absolute surprise. Sad to say, this is the most underrated film I have ever seen.

Too often we take this incredible gift of life for granted. We rush around as if we have forever. We often fail to recognize and acknowledge the simple things in life, our home, family, friends, and health. Appreciation of life reminds you to be kind, humble, generous, and to take frequent moments to stop and smell the roses.

Synopsis:

A story about a career man who is struck down by terminal cancer while his wife is expecting their first child. The film then charts his efforts to make a video tape, for his unborn child, of his life and then discovers that it is not what it should be. With the help of a spiritual healer and his wife he sets about trying to set things right with his family and his life.

Details: My Life Movie was directed and written by Bruce Joel Rubin. Genre is drama and rated PG 13. It was released November 12, 1993.

The main casts of My Life movie are Michael Keaton, Nicole Kidman, Queen Latifah, Bradley Whitford, Michael Constantine, Toni Sawyer and Mark Lowenthal among others.